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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To clarify I do not want to have a baby to "fix" the marriage. I want to have another baby because I enjoy being a mom and want another child. If the marriage gets back on track, I don't want to regret not having another child, because I chose to wait until we figured things out, and became too old for another.[/quote]

OP.  I say this kindly.  Having a baby is not at all about you and what you do and don't want.  You say you don't want to regret not having another child.  But, can you imagine regretting having another child that you love dearly because you see the pain that has been created by the divorce and the failure of parenting on the father's part?  Because that's where I am, and I now recognize how utterly selfish I was to have a 2nd baby with that man when I knew that there were problems in the marriage.  Yes, he said he wanted baby #2, but it is easy to say what you know someone else wants to hear.  There is nothing I can do to stop, erase or mitigate DC2's pain, and every time I see it, I know that it is my fault.

Can you imagine that?  Would you regret that? [/quote]

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