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[quote=Anonymous]OP...I feel for you, really. But let's have a little perspective.

You are already a mother. So that is a HUGE blessing. This is not a matter of Mom or No Mom here. You already ARE a mom to a wonderful child that you both love and adore!

Yes...you *want* another child. But your husband does not. Imagine the resentment he would have toward you AND that other child if you push this! Plus...he has told you he doesn't want to adopt because his heart isn't in it. Do not bring a non-biological child into your home thinking he will "get over" this feeling. He will not. He's already told you he doesn't want this. ICK! Why would [b]you[/b] want to have a child FEEL that from their adoptive father??? Just...no.

And sure, you could choose to be resentful and even DIVORCE over it. But what does that say to the child you have that the only reason you want to leave his/her dad is because you can't agree on having another child. You are screaming to this child "YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH!" and that sucks.

Further, you could go through all that and wind up mis-carrying or having a child with severe learning disabilities or physical challenges...and then where will you be?? Probably alone raising the two kids by yourself because DH already told you he is not into this. 
Count your blessings, OP. No really...count them. You have a perfectly lovely family of three.

Don't blow up your (and your kid's) perfectly-blessed life over a wish for MORE blessings than you have.
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