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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Surprised that so many want you to change nannies!  This person has presumably been working with your children for some time (because she did not quit or call the police), doled out appropriate (IMO) consequences, etc.  I would work with the medical team, and agree with a PP who said when your child is calm you need to explain how bad what they did actually was, and, more importantly, work on teaching an alternative way to deal with frustration.  Work with the therapist, and give tools to the nanny for you, and her, to help your child when they are unable to handle their emotions.  And, thank and be grateful to this person who still wants to work for you![/quote]

I responded earlier about possibly switching nannies- to me, it sounds like OP's DC needs someone with more experience. It did concern me that the situation had reached such a boiling point, then the nanny piled on right in that moment with the electronics loss (a huge deal to a twelve year old). Yes, he should be accountable, yes, he should lose the electronics, but I feel like a bit of prevention and this might not have happened. Now, I'm concerned that he's going to hit her again the next time he gets in trouble because he's crossed that line. [/quote]

I think the nanny threatened to take away electronics because OP's DC wasn't listening and she was trying to get him to comply.  I don't view that as piling on.  I guess the nanny should have let him or her just continue tripping and shoving his younger sibling.  All the people placing this at the feet of the nanny are basically enabling the child's behavior.  This is a twelve year old.  And I hope those advocating switching nannies are also advocating that OP should give the nanny a decent severance package so she can support herself while she tries to find a new job.  [/quote]

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