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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every year SIL wants to exchange gifts between “just the sibling” and buy a communal gift from “just the siblings”, excluding me and my other SIL and our kids. Every year DH says, without fail, “no, Larla. DW and I will be giving a gift to our parents and from us to you and your family.” There is no suggestion of what DD or I would like, the communication is “if we’re just exchanging gifts between us, our limit is X.”

This year she suggested “just the siblings” pay for a small renovation on my IL’s house (a $600 job split between 3 adults) and DH flat out said no. I don’t understand the meaning of this, because I would still have to buy an additional gift for my IL’s or is she trying to make me look/feel cut out from her family? I don’t know. Do other families exchange gifts between just the immediate family, not including their in-laws?

I’m trying to ignore it, but not going to lie that it hurts a little; mainly because it feels like she doesn’t see DD and I as part of their family. DD is DH’s daughter too. We’ve been married 5 years. This is the fifth year she’s said this. [/quote]

Oh dear God, you sound like a drama queen. it is so petty I can't even follow what you are saying.

We do not exchange gifts. WE give the kids gifts. The focus is being together, taking a week to slow down, playing cards and board games, creating magic for the kids, and yes, celebrating the birth of Jesus.[/quote]

Hey Gladys, I think OP's point was that SIL is making the gift exchange all about the adults instead of the kids. And being weirdly exclusionary towards other present adults.

Don't think Jesus would be on board with that. - not OP[/quote]

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