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[quote=Anonymous]This kind of boy on girls teasing is common in 6th but it sounds like it has more than tipped over into bullying since its on going.  Unfortunately she gave them a reaction that they were looking for (crying) and so they have escalated.  It is a familiar pattern with kids this age.

Do not approach the other parents.  No matter how well you phrase it they are bound to feel at least a bit defensive and, if they even believe you/her, any scolding or punishment they may mete out will boomerang on her in some fashion.  Best case scenario, he will tell the other boys that she got him in trouble.  Its not an effective path.

My kids have always gone to privates and are now both in high school.  I would have gone to the teacher in lower grades, the advisor or school counselor in middle school.  And if it were especially egregious, I would (and did once) go to the head of the division (lower or middle school).  I say start closer to the kids and move it up the chain if things don't improve.  Be calm and direct but make it clear she has been dealing with this on her on for some time.  Its too much for her.

AS for our DD, doesn't she have girl friends who can help her?  to tell the boys they are "horrible" or "gross" or something?  Often at this age, the girls are able to put boys who are being mean in their place by moving/acting as a group on behalf of all the girls.  I f not, she needs to learn to either walk away calmly and ignore them, or wipe the floor with them as you say.  Boys that age are wayyyyy more afraid of a mean girl who confronts them than even another boy. One time and they will leave her alone. [/quote]

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