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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We merged fInances and had custody of my stepchild, so I paid for essentially 50% of my stepchild’s expenses.  Mom spent almost nothing, expecting us to send money to cover everything from groceries to incidentals when stepchild visited during the summer. [/quote]

I am in the same boat. Bio-mom is not in the picture except for a few visits a year and we cover everything (my DH never filed for child support). I cover my step-DD health insurance/co-pays and we count groceries as general family expense. She tells me what she prefers to eat and I buy within reason. I used to cover my step-DD activities and tutors, but stopped a few months back since it is really my DH's responsibility. I cover our two bio children daycare expenses out my own paycheck (my DH does not contribute at all) as well their other expenses--clothes, doctor co-pays, and activities. My DH does not contribute a dime from his income towards our bio-kids. He pretty much provides the roof over our head (4k mortgage), pays car insurance, electricity/gas, and trash removal. I also make car payments on all three cars, my step-DD drives one of them. I have been handed a really crappy deal and can't wait until step--DD is off to college![/quote]

I'm PP and it sounds like we are not at all in the same boat.  I went into this marriage assuming we were equal partners in our household, which meant caring equally for my stepchild.  I don't resent it, in my mind it was part of the deal in marrying DH and the least I could do considering DH's ex can barely care for herself much less contribute meaningfully to the upkeep of her child.  My relationship with my stepchild isn't perfect, but I married DH and became a parent albeit step-, so I fully believe I have some responsibility to this child.
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