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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you can't go ice skating, but you can (and like to) go dancing but are somewhat restricted, and generally don't use a wheelchair?

I can't fathom that 99% of guys would care about these things.  If either my DH or I had these issues, i can't even think of a way it would have impacted our 20 year relationship.

Either you are coincidentally just meeting the 5% of guys who are douchebag jerks, or there are other reasons these relationships aren't working.  I'm guessing the latter, because the reality is that *many* people date a lot without success.  Possibly you are just blaming your normal dating unsuccess on your disability.  [/quote]

I find PP’s post a little judgey - sort of implying that people who are unsuccessfully dating are doing something wrong.  I think that tbe reality of life is that online dating requires going thru a LOT of dates to find a match.  To some extent, I read your self-described dating failure as very typical even for a neuro-typical person.  As a mom to an SN kid, I think it’s very hard to identify what parts of social failure are normal, which are due to stigma about disability and which are truly due to disablility.  IME, the vast majority is Category I and II, but the disabled person sometimes feels that everything is category III.

Whatever it is, based on your post, YOU clearly feel that your disability makes it harder to get/keep relationships.  That makes me wonder if you are tolerating subtle signs of douche-baggery and keeping the DBs around longer than appropriate.  Remember, every DB in your orbit is taking up space of someone else who could be a non-douchebag![/quote]

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