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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I totally hear you OP. I have not spoken to my mother since Aug 27 and feel totally liberated.

Before this, I spoke to her several times a day and she lives in the UK.

Plus we were obliged to visit her at our expense.

No more. No more (I want to quote Edgar Allen Poe here but I forgot it - ha yes, Never more, never more).
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Well, that's kind of an unintentionally ironic reference, because the Poe poem (The Raven) is about how he won't ever see his loved one again because she died.  At some point, most of us will be in a "nevermore" situation with our moms.

I hear you....it may help to think about it that elderly are like kids in many ways.  The cognitive function and impulse control is not always 100% there, plus the relationship of dependence is inherently challenging and frustrating.  So like your kids will rage at you about some dumb thing, or will resent you for telling them they can't do something, so will elderly parents.  The difference is that with kids, you are hopeful that tomorrow will be better, while with elderly parents, you anticipate tomorrow being worse.  It is nature's payback for them dealing with us when we were PITA children and teens.  [/quote]

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