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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's way too young to be considered marriage material but there is no reason you can't enjoy yourself but you do need to look to your future.[/quote]

Maybe...this is what I told myself years ago when I met my much younger husband.  But he may be the one.  You can't know by making that assumption now.  The truth is, even if he was 35, there are a lot of guys who become decent husbands, but not a lot of stellar ones.  If he is really in to you and truly treating you like a serious prospect, then having that kind of confidence at 25 bodes far better than just finding someone within three years of your age.  I had a few other younger guys hit on me back in my dating days, and yes more often than not they were wet behind the ears.  But I doubt this guy comes off that way based on your description.  If it is just the number of his age and all his other actions and behavior feels right, then tune out all the noise and go for what you want.

If I had listened to any of the naysayers above, I would have missed out on the most amazing relationship than I can imagine.  DH is light years more mature than many of my exes around my age, and knows who he is - he never cared what anyone thought about his choices.  He is one of the happiest people I know.[/quote]

I have to chime in and concur with the PP above.

I met my DH when he was 22 and I was just turning 30.  When we first started dating I was hesitant about the age difference, but we just clicked. He was more mature at 22 than most guys I've met at any age.  Now almost 20 years later we have been married for 14 years, have two kids and a happy life.  The only "downside" you might say is that we had our kids when I was older than I would have preferred, because there was no way I was having kids until he was good and ready for that massive life change.  We were fortunate to have no issues with getting pregnant etc. due to my "advanced maternal age".

OP, none of us can get the full picture of the circumstances.  It's really just about you and him and what you both want.  I understand your hesitancy, I felt it myself 20 years ago, but I'd say trust your heart.  If you are only embarrassed about the age difference but everything else feels good, just go with it.[/quote]

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