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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got pregnant right away with my son and then when he was 10 months old we started TTC again.   I thought I would have an easy time around the second time since I got pregnant right away the first time but it's now been 5 years trying everything to get pregnant and I've never been pregnant again.  I have unexplained secondary infertility and we tried IUIs and IVFs, nothing worked.  I am now 40.

I seriously considered DE, I did a ton of research, talked to REs, and even chose a donor I was interested in, but then just decided it wasn't right for me.  It just seemed too complicated and I didn't like the idea of the child being biologically related to DH but not to me.  I also didn't like the idea of carrying someone else's egg.  Also my son looks exactly like me and knowing that this child wouldn't look like me at all really bothered me.  I could just imagine in the future that my DE child in the teen years could be saying things like, "you like bio son better because he's your real son and I'm not" or "you're not my real mother so I don't have to listen to you" and it would be just heartbreaking.  I could also imagine my son wondering why I had to go to such great efforts to give him a sibling and saying something like, "why wasn't I enough?  You should have just had one kid."

Anyhow, after thinking about this for about a year we decided to just be content with an only child.  [/quote]

Thank you for your honest thoughts. Did you and your husband ever consider donor embryo?[/quote]

PP here.  No, we never considered donor embryo.  It just seemed too complicated, like how do you explain that to the child?  I would have much rather pursued adoption, seems so much easier to understand from the child's point of view. [/quote]

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