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[quote=Anonymous]At this age, maybe try figuring this out together. She's old enough to understand rules and consequences. Sit down and make a list of her expectations and your expectations. If she feels like she has a say, this will be collaborative rather than adversarial.  For example:

Teen: I think I shouldn't have a bedtime. Ever.

You and DH: hmmm. We think it's important for your body and mind to get at least X hours of sleep each night, especially on school nights. How can we make this happen?

Teen: On school nights I can go to bed by midnight, but no curfew on weekends.

You and DH: midnight doesn't seem like enough sleep. How about 11pm on weeknights and we can let you stay up until X on weekends.

Then discuss consequences.  Ask her what she thinks is fair if she's not following the rules.  Listen.  My kids are actually tougher on themselves than I would be when I ask them about what consequences they think they should have.

You stilll drive the conversation and have hard lines, but you've got to give a little, too. [/quote]

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