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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn’t you do this as a teen? I sure did. [/quote]
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I didn’t voluntarily stay up after 12:30 until college. Even then, never 3 or 4 am by choice. [b]While I believe that adolescents have different sleep cycles, I think screens are making it worse.[/b] In the late 80s and early 90s, even cable tv was boring at that time of day. [/quote]
Exactly. We spend so much effort trying to justify teen sleep schedules and ignore the volumes of data about how screens effect our sleep habits.[/quote]

Correct. And we also have volumes of data about how many teens aren't great at self-regulation (frontal lobe, etc), so that's why parents need to provide some guardrails. [/quote]

I am one of the parents who lets my kids do what they want, sleepwise, over breaks. I also agree about the self-regulation. But if I'm dictating to them what to do - e.g. following the rules I had for them when they were 13-14 of no screens past 9pm, lights out by 10pm - then they're not learning how to do it themselves, which they are going to have to do in college. I want my 16 year old to be able to identify what she feels like when she's not getting enough sleep, and what steps to take to start getting better sleep. She's going to be off to college next year and she won't have mom there identifying and fixing it for her.

It probably also helps that so far, my kids aren't regular up until 4am kids. I put myself to bed every night at 10pm and recommend to the kids they should be falling asleep around then, too, and usually they're on their way. I recommend swim as a sport that reinforces getting good sleep, because getting up at 5am on 2-4 hours of sleep is miserable.[/quote]

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