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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Funny that you think it is in the child's best interest to have to live in a different house each week --- or live out of a suitcase shifting back and forth every 2-3 days.  Who would want to live like a nomad?  It would be incredibly disruptive.  Your child could have a lot more stability living primarily in one home.  The other parent (who has secondary custody/time) can still have a positive relationship with the child. [b][OK, so you're totally willing for the non-custodial parent to be you, right? No wait, there are a million reasons why you can't be the "secondary" parent. But thanks for your transparently dishonest rationalization for why you should get everything you want.][/b]

From my observations, the dad fights for 50/50 custody to avoid paying child support.  It is always about the money....and usually means the child will pay the price in stress....if the kid has to shuffle back and forth constantly. [b][From my observation, women fight for full custody because they want to milk more child support out of the dad. It is always about the money, and these women couldn't care less that reduction in the father's role has a profoundly negative influence on the children][/b]

The parents are the ones who gave up on the marriage...why should the kid be inconvenienced and stressed and have to live out of a suitcase b/c the parents couldn't get their act together? [b][Don't pretend this is about anything other than YOUR convenience and what YOU want.][/b]  [/quote]

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The real bottom line is that The parents gave up on parenting in one house...and now expect the kids to do the work of shuffling back and forth every week or every few days.  Even if both parents are good parents, the kids shouldn't shouldn't have to live out of suitcases.  They should be living in one house even if that means less overall time ( much of which is sleeping time) with one parent.   It may not be "fair" to each parent, but they had some choice in the divorce.  It is surely NOT fair for a child to have to be so disrupted.[/quote]

Your premise that it is "disruptive" to "shuffle back and forth" is stupid and false. They don't live out of suitcases. Neither house is a hotel room if you do it right - both houses are their homes. And I am sure that you are another one of these hypocrites who would scream bloody murder if the "one house the kids should live in" was not yours. [b]You're just trying to rationalize getting what you want - custody, and thus money - as really being "for the children".
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It is NOT fair - and it is highly damaging - to reduce one parent to an occasional presence in their lives.[/quote]

Ummm.....no... I'm not getting divorced.... but I can kind of see why you are.[/quote]

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