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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you all.

It's just hard to know where to go from here. I feel like I want to do something in the interim while we're waiting for this meeting to happen. Should I hire a tutor, or just have DH and I work with her more at home (which we do already?) I hate to throw money down a rabbit hole not knowing if it will help.

Just trying to figure out where the academic spark is for her. Nothing seems to hold her interest for long and while it isn't painful to do homework (most of the time), she puts the least amount of effort into it to get it over with. She never picks up a book to read or look at it for pleasure. As I think ahead to things like book reports and little research projects, I worry about her. I see what other kids her age accomplish and while I'm not comparing, she she isn't anywhere near that. They color the whole page and label things, she doesn't color at all and might label two things. They read a text and provide several details in written form. She struggles to put down down details at all. Even with things like arts and crafts, she enjoys them, but only for five minutes at a time.

She's a physical kid and excels at anything sporty/active. She's also enjoyed theater camp or opportunities to act or dance. She likes to cook and play with slime.

I'm rambling now. Thanks for listening...
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NP here. Your DD sounds a lot like my son in terms of little 'yellow flags' which made me feel that something was not right. Meanwhile, my DH was in denial about anything being wrong.
Ultimately what made me go for the full eval with a neuropsychologist (when he was 9) was an episode that DS had at school where he wasn't able to control his impulsivity. This was the push we needed--for me to schedule something finally (I'd been finding the process daunting) and for DH to go along. In your case, you might not have that 'urgent episode' but it's critical to move forward even if your DH is resistant to admit a problem. You'll need to work it out with him so that he is willing to go through the eval process for your DD--I wish you well on that and hope you can get him on board.

As part of the eventual evaluation, the neuropsychologist asked both me, DH, and the teacher to fill out assessments. This was important because he compared and contrasted all 3 responses. DH was more tolerant/forgiving of what I saw as "issues". However, the teacher's eval (we asked last year's teacher, as we had the eval over the summer) was very clear in indicating that DS's behavior had certain issues.

I was so relieved to get the eval/diagnosis and have a starting point. It's so draining to parent a child like mine and the diagnosis gives you a road map to work with the school counselors etc. It helped me understand my kid a bit more, even. We haven't finalized the plan with the school counselors (we expect that we'll develop a 504 plan), but the eval was so helpful when DS started his new class/school and it got the counselor's attention and helped them understand what DS's challenges are. And I'm hoping it will formalize the interventions he needs (like extra time to write down his homework assignments each day in his planner....which I think the teacher otherwise would not get around to doing for him.)[/quote]

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