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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It gets harder as they get older and have school work, projects, social lives and activities.

I have 3 who are now in late elementary and middle school and it's a lot to keep up with and I'm much busier than my friends with 2 kids are. 
When they were young I didn't notice it as much--feeding 3 kids vs. 2 isn't much different.  Putting 3 kids to bed vs. 2 isn't much different.   But trying to consistently be 3 places 
at once (now that they all have busy lives outside of our family) makes our family feel much busier than my friends with 2 kids and infinitely busier than our friends with 1 kid. [/quote]

Agree. I only have two. I wanted another when they were a baby and toddler but DH did not. Now they are both in ES and I am so glad we stopped at 2. My fiends with three seem so crazy busy all the time.  [/quote]

We are stopping at two also. Sometimes I love the idea of a family with three but frankly so many of the stages seem so hard. If you have a baby and elementary schoolers / preschoolers, you cart the baby everywhere. Once the baby becomes an elementary schooler, you  have so much trouble juggling activities and can never feel present in everyone’s things. The families I know with three all seem stretched very thin. I struggled with this as I love the idea of a bigger family but we are set now. Mine are seven and five [/quote]

Me exactly.  I considered a third because I love my kids and I love spending time with them.  But eventually I came to the conclusion that having a third would not increase my enjoyment more, it would just stretch me thinner and probably give me less time to enjoy the kids -- I'd spend more time just taking care of their basic needs, and have less time to cuddle, read stories and just hang out. [/quote]

I am curious to know the ages of the kids mentioned in this thread.  When you have little kids, you can't imagine (even if people tell you!) how different your life will be when they are in late elementary and middle school.  When I had little kids, my day was always over by 7pm.  Kids were in bed, I was drinking a beer and hanging with my husband.  Now that they are older, you almost can't help but be out three to four nights a week with activities (two kids, two sports, maybe a music lesson thrown in.)  The logistics of having kids gets exponentially more complex the older they get.  Sure, you aren't changing diapers, or helping someone learn how to go to the bathroom, but it just FILLS UP so much more quickly.  a third baby doesn't seem like much, but that baby is going to turn into a full sized human in about 12 years.  It is a TREMENDOUS jump in places you have to be, gallons of milk to buy, tuition to pay, and homework to manage.  [/quote]

Man my kids are littler and my day is nowhere near over by 7pm! I think it depends on the kid’s personalities really.[/quote]

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