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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sibling E pays for his/her share of the work and then can use his/her time with parent as a social call.

All should think about a night time caregiver now and have it in place.  Find a local senior day out place that is cheaper to help pay for the night time caregiver.  [/quote]

Wait - you think a child should pay for his mother's cleaning and yardwork when the mother has [b]$5 million in assets[/b]?

OK.  [/quote]

If the rest of the siblings are dividing up he work and E doesn5 want to do the work, yes- he should pay for the work that is his share if he wants only social visits.  The OP said that money wa not an issue for anyone.  I would do it [i]for[/i] my parent.  Don’t be a bean counter. [/quote]

Are you in your 60's with four siblings?  Most retirees don't want to be doing their own cleaning and yard work, let alone for someone else.  I did it for my dad when he needed it, but I was alot younger than these people.[/quote] I know most people in 5eir 60s do not want to be doing the grunt work, which is why I suggested that Sibling E not do the grunt work.  I have been through the deaths of my parents and my DHs parents.  DH has three siblings- so that is near enough. I have one.  What works is people not quibbling over the small stuff and doing and giving  things out of love and not keeping track of who should be spending what on what or who should not be spending. Let it go and concentrate on love.   Everyone was in their 50s when their parents died.

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