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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think there's one right answer here. My mother has a close friend that adopted two children that are both adults now. The adoptive parents are just incredibly nice, good, stable people. Very religious, but not in a 'you're going to hell for everything" way.

The boy grew up to be successful, went to college, happily married, etc. I'm not sure if he ever sought out his bio family.

The girl, who was probably not as naturally academically gifted as the boy/had a harder time in school, which affected her socially, and she has had a rough time of it. She has four kids by four different fathers by her late '20's. Her parents were distraught, but stood by her and helped with the grandkids. The daughter could never really let go of the fact that her mother gave her up. I can't remember if she found her bio family either.

Point is, you had two kids in the same home with arguably very supportive parents and the outcomes were different. I think you could find the same in biological families.

I think some of the anti-adoption sentiment is economically based.  I would make VERY certain that the child you are adopting is a child that truly needs a home.  You don't have to look far to find instances of int'l adoption where the bio parents were misled and an agency collected a nice fee.[/quote]

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