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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most people just really want to talk about their kid. Divert the attention from your own kid and keep the conversation on theirs. (SNs moms often have no one else to talk to about these things.)[/quote]

This is something I will try. Rather than change the subject completely I will ignore the probes about my kid and say "How is Larla doing? I am so glad to hear the things you have shared have worked out for her!" If the person comes back to obsessing about my kid I will flip it again "You mentioned doing x program for Larla. What has she liked most about it?"

Thanks! [/quote]

This is good advice. My husband got a new boss a year ago and she has a son with severe ADHD. I feel for her because I know it is hard but for months she drove my husband nuts with unsolicited advice. Our child has a diagnosis with its own issues but has not much in common with ADHD. I told him to be patient with her because it’s really about her trying to figure out her own kid and wanting someone to talk to about it. She has finally realized our kids don’t have much in common. [/quote]

I also think there may be an aspect of feeling so out of control and ignorant when the professionals talk to them that they want to feel like the expert desperately. They just forget people spend many years getting degrees and clinical experience to be experts. Now if your kids have very similar profiles and the person asks YOU for advice, they yes, you have something to offer. Even if the kids don'thave similar profiles, but you are asked "What did you think of this doctor/ST/OT/PT?" then yes share.[/quote]

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