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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She has become so rude and nasty, not just to me but EVERYONE. It seems like anything and everything annoys her. This is my very good friend from childhood. She was my bridesmaid, helped throw my baby shower and was always one of my closest friends for decades. We celebrated our 40th birthdays earlier this year. Friend got married last year and all she talked about was how much they can’t wait to start a family. It isn’t happening for her. I have tried to be supportive. After months and now second year of not getting pregnant, she is just an awful human being to be around and talk to.

Do I just take the abuse from her? Can I say something?
Distance myself?

I basically listened to her insult me and everyone we know for 2 hours the last time I saw her. I didn’t mention my kids. The only one thing she said positive was how much she loves her husband and how they are remaining positive. I could tell she was fighting back tears. Then [b]she started complaining about food and service. [/b]Couldn’t wait to get out of there. She has called and texted a few times.[/quote]

Being negative is a way to get some control. Think about it, that's the one thing she wants and she can't have. Maybe it is nasty and mean. Very human though. Imagine if your kids were all sick and you had no way to help them. It has been two years. Where are you at, mentally? Are you loving the food and service? I think the thing that's hardest sometimes with our friends and loved ones is to be OK with how they are feeling and let them know they are OK, especially when they aren't feeling particularly good or lovable. [/quote]

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