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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IMO it is better for teens to go through the initial trials and tribulations of relationships while still living at home (hence in high school). That way they can come to their parents for advice and you can keep an eye on how they ar handling this normal phase of life.  Sort of like having training wheels.  If you forbid it and force your DS to wait until college to start dating, then you won’t have any idea how he handles it, none.  And all the people I knew in high school who weren’t allowed to date at all (for various reasons, such as religious or uber controlling parents or cultural) went bananas as soon as they went to college and made horrible dating decisions.  Horrible.  Including my best friend who basically slept with everyone on the first date but couldn’t understand why no guy would ask her for a second.  She’s divorced now BTW.[/quote]

Realizing that I agree with what's said above helped me get on board with my 15 yr old dating.  It completely stressed me out at first. But, she and the her now BF are settling into a nice relationship (they support one another, respect one another and don't see each other constantly but rather maintain their independent relationships).  I would so much rather my kids develop some relationship skills in their teens than just gather experiences in the "hook-up" culture. BTW college dating is also more likely to be fueled by alcohol so that's not a great learning environment.  It helps that I really like BF and I think he's a good influence on my DD.  But even negative experiences are valuable learning experiences.  As for OP's feeling like DS is pulling away.  Sadly that comes with the teen territory whether he's dating or not. Hang in there, it's hard.  But as other's have said. A homecoming date does not often become an girlfriend.[/quote]

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