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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's the prognosis, OP?  If you will be well enough over the coming months, please take tons of video (iphone is fine!) of you interacting with your kiddos, and maybe some videos for them to watch on birthdays and special occasions.  Have someone help you go through those digital photos saved on your computer and pick out specific photos for each child and make a photo book with space on the covers for you to write to them.  Hearing a loved one's voice is one of the greatest gifts that is left behind, so record stories and poems and singing.  Prayers of peace to you and your family as you endure what's to come.[/quote]

Do the above now. I do think having some videos they can watch in the coming years, as well as photo books, will be important for them now as youngsters.

And SAVE THOSE JOURNALS!!!!  and gift them to both of your children when they are adults! The Christmas that your youngest child turns 20 years old is when I'd have them be opened by both kids, they'll be 20 and 22....  what a perfect time to read them. And give to both, not just your daughter - both children will love to learn about their mother in her younger years, after you've gone.   Put them in a huge box, wrap in brown paper and a note "to be given to X and Y on Christmas Day, 20XX (I can't do that math).  Speak with your husband, he'll hide the box away in the back of the attic so the box doesn't tempt your children now and the next 10 years of their lives!  (or put in your safety deposit box if it's big enough)

My mother has these - she's kept a journal about just regular normal things since she was in high school. I remember finding them in the attic when i was about 12 years old- opened one at random and it was about how I'd finally slept through the night at a few months of age, both my father and mother woke up in the morning and rushed to my crib to find - a sleeping baby!  I'd just started babysitting and I remember loving to think about my parents as so young, with a baby... me!  And some talk about how she met my father, about their courtship, they are priceless.  Even if there are "scandalous" bits in there, leave them all, don't go to the trouble of removing things - your kids will be adults when they read them, they can handle that their mother smoked pot, believe me!  :)

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