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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of the girl’s moms my sons group of friends from an EC arranged a nice dinner beforehand at their country club and coordinated rides freshman and sophomore years.  Nice pictures before.  I wrote her a check.  By junior year, the kids made their own plans.

I have a socially clueless boy, so I appreciated it.  The loved being invite, and it took the pressure off a date. Left to his own devices, my kid would never have made a plan and probably would have skipped homecoming.  But this was a very inclusive, all freshmen or sophomores in the extracurricular got  an invite thing.  My kid had a nice dinner and a good time, we have a nice picture of his friend group in a suit and it took a lot of social pressure off him. It cost me about $25 for dinner. Plus the cost of the ticket. No flowers because he didn’t have a date.

Moms can do snobby micromanaging, or they can be helpful and inclusive for 14 year olds who are poor planners . My sons friends mom was the later, and it was really nice of her. I’m pretty sure no one was excluded and no one had their feelings hurt. [/quote]

There is a third group of moms, OP.  Be grateful if you don't come across the "forced inclusion" type.  They are nuts!  I heard of one parent who tried to go to the high school admin, to have their son included [b]forcibly[/b] (!!!), into a group of boys attending homecoming.  The boys had made their own plans - as it should be, it is high school.  As you would suspect, that parent is now and forever on that school's radar, by their own doing - and NOT for good reason.  Their poor DC!  It would have been so much better for that DC, in the long run to find people who wanted to include (NOT [b]forcibly[/b], which will always backfire, for obvious reasons).

High school is the perfect time for our children to learn to make plans for themselves, *without* parental micromanagement.  When I have seen micromanaging for homecoming, it is usually a family of all girls, whose mom is trying to live vicariously - or (rather obviously) have their daughters pair up with someone in particular. Everyone knows who that is, it is kind of the running joke.  Sometimes a group of girls will invite a shy kid, and that is kind of nice, but it really sticks out, so it could go either way (by drawing to much attention, not always in a good way).

I don't really understand the moms who feel the need to send so many texts and/or make so many phone calls about anything, but I do think they need professional help. Since you asked, OP.[/quote]

You keep using that word.  I do not think it means what you think it means.  [/quote]

It sure does! Thanks for outing yourself! [/quote]

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