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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. For a little more context, and answering of some questions......DH is very mentally and emotionally abusive. It's been going on for years, and has totally wreaked havoc on my self esteem. After finally getting therapy and further understanding what's going on I feel like I need space to further build myself back up. DH and I are also in couples therapy. The couples therapy seems to be helping him understand my major complaints over the years and areas where his behavior and thinking is off base. He is just now starting to try in the marriage. The problem is that for me the damage has been done, and I need to recover. I have suffered severe depression as a result of the abuse. I don't have the fortitude to heal myself while he is working out his issues. Because even though he is trying and improving he still makes mistakes that are abusive.

We have a child. He has a very strong relationship with our kid. I would hate to permanently disrupt our family life. At the same time I don't want the abuse that has been taking place to be normalized. Before calling it quits I want to know I did everything possible to save my marriage. [/quote]

How do you see this temporary separation playing out?[/quote]

OP here. I was thinking of moving out for 30-60 days while we still go to couples therapy and he goes to individual therapy. I need some time to get from under the thumb of the day to day abuse. So I can think straight and repair some of the damage that has been done. I was thinking that a separation would also give him time to work on himself if he chooses, without the added day to day burden of marital stress. If shows that he has been working on himself, and I feel I have gotten stronger, we could consider me moving back in.[/quote]

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