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[quote=Anonymous]We had children late in life, so our children are ES age with 80-something and 90-something grandparents.  Our children are much less independent than OP's so we definitely understand the smush.  For us, it's harder because the parents do not live close by (my parents are in Florida and my MIL is in California).

We have trusted family friends that are younger (in their 50's and 60's) who live near our parents.  These friends are retirees so on limited budgets.  We pay for various luxuries for these friends who help us with things like doctor's appointments and shopping.  Since they are retirees, they have the time and flexibility to take our parents to doctor's appointments and such, and being 20 years younger, they are still active and strong enough to handle these things as long as there aren't too many.  In exchange, we pay for their cable packages and they have cell phones on our service.  So they get new iPhones and family data packages with us, essentially unlimited data, calling and text.  These are things that would be very difficult for them to afford on their limited means, so we pay those and they take the parents to and from the airport, a few doctor's appointments and grocery shopping once a week or so.  It works out for us.

You might want to see if you can find friends of your mother like this who can help on an as needed basis that you can provide some luxury or pay some bills for them to help out with this type of support.[/quote]

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