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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Millions of kids have grown up to be happy,healthy adults with parents just like your DH. I would say the majority of parents - both mothers and fathers are not extremely emotionally connected. Many just go through the motions of each day, getting what needs to be done done. Many don't have the luxury of time to do what you do, they are working 2 jobs and trying to keep food on the table.

I have never in my life had a personal conversation with my father or exchanged any affection other than a stiff hug. Yet he is a great person and a great dad. He connects to people intellectually, not emotionally. If you want to debate - he is your person. He taught us many things that didn't have anything to do with emotion. He was a professor and very into his own world but if we went to his world, he loved including us in it. I used to spend hours in his office while he worked. We weren't even talking but he would ask me to 'mark' exams and I would put red check marks all over pages. or i would find things to entertain myself with.

You might need to let go of your traditional view of a good father and see how else he can connect with the kids that is maybe quite different from what you do.[/quote]

She doesn't have a traditional view of a good father.  She has a modern view of a good father.

Her husband sounds like a picture perfect example of the traditional good father. Good provider. Shows up for activities. Makes sure everyone has a roof over their head, food in the bellies and money for the extras.

She wants a modern father, the guys who does what a traditional father does, PLUS all the emotional nurturing of a traditional mom.  She wants superdad.

OP, were you an only child and "Daddy's Little Princess"?  Are you still Daddy's Little Girl?

You are being utterly unfair to your husband and children by expecting him to be your dad V2.[/quote]

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