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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never encountered any I would call a bully, but more extreme helicopter moms who didn't know when to let their kids takeover in making their own plans.  I had one mom still contacting me when our kids were 15!  "Eva would love to go to the movies with Lara on Friday.  Is she available?"

I've also seen it with parents who try to play friend matchmaker for their shy/less social kids. [/quote]

What do you do in this situation?  When the parent tries to (practically) force your DC to hang out with their DC?  Isn't it more/most valuable to teach your child how to make friends who *want* them around?  Some parents think they are "helping" their child by intervening, when in reality, they are further alienating their child.  Reviving this thread for more current input. [/quote]

You could be less gross and have a little more compassion. It's like you are relishing the kids' loneliness and the mothers' attempts to help them. Because I don't believe for one second that you don't know to say "Lara makes her own plans these days, have Eva contact her directly." [/quote]

What?  If your child is lonely, have your child spend time with a different child  - the public middle and high schools around here are enormous, with literally thousands of students.  What is "gross" about expecting parents of teens to let teens make their own plans?  If a parent of a teen were to call me - what good would ever come of that?  I can't force my child to do something they don't want to.  i can't parent your child, nor can you parent mine. In my experience, if a teen does not want to hang around another teen, there is good reason.  As a parent, you only have one side of the story - and I would be certain you are not calling about one child making their own plans.  The purpose of your call would be to micromanage, which no parent I know would do, because it always backfires.  Maybe you should be the one with more compassion.  Be more socially astute, for your child's sake.

I have seen parents try to escalate matters, thinking they are "helping" their child, and it ends up terrible for their child.  Think about it. No one wants to be associated with the troublemaking parents. [/quote]

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