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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for your input, everybody.

I don't think that H has ADHD. He has simply been always this removed from reality concerning practical things.

He is adamant about having his own business.[b] He says that he cannot go back to working for others.[/b]

I hope so much that in a year he will be able hire someone to do the work that I am doing, which is basically the entire management and administration. It is hard to work for somebody who doesn't want me to do that work.

And I also hope that I will find the mental strength to deal with him during the coming year until I can get out.

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PP here - this is my father.  He said he would die inside if he had to work for someone else (in an office).  This is the "smartest man in the room" complex and I have bad news for you - it never dies.  My parents couldn't pay my phone bill at times growing up because of our dire financial situation.  Thankfully we never lost our house (grandparents helped, etc.) but it was always a dark cloud over us.  My father and mother eventually separated and he went off living on his own still doing "his thing" (and not making much money...still) almost 30 years later (into his 70s).  That's NOT where you want to end up.  All that said, please do support him as much as you can.[/quote]

Op here. PP, I am sorry that you had to go through this your entire life... It is hard to see that a talented person's attitude prevents him from fulfilling his potential and giving his family a good life.

Like your mother, I too thought that I married a brilliant expert in his field. I would love to help him until the business becomes profitable, even if he doesn't want my help. We have invested more than $1m in his business.

That being said, I cannot accept tying myself to him at the expense of my own professional development. Fortunately I have good earning capabilities and I want to become financially independent a.s.a.p. Unfortunately I will have to prepare mentally to support the kids financially, too. Already surveying the condo market nearby.[/quote]

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