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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sigh. My DS11 has become very interested in money this year. He started asking me about investments and started to come up with sums of money that he "found" around the house. He's been asking me to put it all in a bank account with a match.

OP, talk with your DD about money- what is it that she wants to buy? Does she want to start a savings plan? Is something making her feel insecure? For instance, do you and your DH worry about money in front of her or inadvertently show a lot of materialism? That's okay- I think we all enjoy nice things but I've found with my own son that he can feel a little entitled to things he hasn't earned because he's always grown up in comfort.

You also have to consider whether your DD is impulsive or defiant. If so, it would likely have shown itself before now, but it gets worse at this age. If this is the case, you will need a therapist to help with the situation. [/quote]

Also, OP, I wanted to say that my son's "found" money was pretty easily traced to job insecurity in our family this year. He became deeply anxious (his nature) for a time and even when things worked themselves out, he was watching youtube videos on how to be a millionaire by age thirty, and how he was going to take care of our family. It was heartbreaking and we went very easy on him by explaining there are "kid" problems like homework and friendships, and there are "adult" problems that we will take care of. I realize this is a dramatic example, but there may be something behind your DDs stealing that can be addressed.

It may also be impulsive behavior of a less serious nature- I was younger than your DD, but I remember taking things out of other children's backpacks at school. It was short lived impulsivity that I stopped on my own. Anyone who knows me now would laugh. My career was accounting/auditing and you will never find a straighter arrow. [/quote]

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