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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not always that simple. My 10 yo can calmly ask if we can discuss something if he truly does not agree and sometimes we can. Not everything is a hard line rule. It’s different than when the kids were little and the rules were don’t run into the road, use respectful language, wash your hands, pick up your toys, etc. [/quote]

For safety-related things, yes, I expect them to obey.  But as they get older, I expect them to disagree with me sometimes, and to express that in a polite, respectful way.  I am the parent, so I get to make the ultimate call, but I think that kids do need to learn how to object appropriately, or ask for my reasoning.  I don't want them to blindly follow authority, but I also don't want them to be sneaky rule-breakers.  If I say not to do something and my kid thinks there is a reason not to do that thing, they should tell me why.  Maybe they are aware of something I'm not aware of.  I want them to be able to use common sense and good judgment, and the only way they develop those things is by talking things through with me.  If they ask why the rule is X, and I explain, then they have learned something (something practical or something about our family's values), which is more useful for their long-term happiness than just doing what I tell them without asking.  [/quote]

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