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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]M here.  No I have not.  I met my wife in my mid 30's.  I had dealt with the issues when I was in my late 20's.

Once or twice I tried to tell her, but she did not want to here it.  The abusers were older kids in my neighborhood (when I was about 5 to 8).

In my 20's, I had isolated myself from the world because I did not want to hurt anyone.  I kept hearing that abuse begets abuse, and did not want to do that.  Then one day, my downstairs neighbor had an emergency, and asked me to watch her 7 yo daughter.  Nothing happened.  Except I discovered that kids can be cool, and I felt angered that I had been deprived of that.

A downward spiral and I crashed.  A suicide attempt led to me getting help.

Wife does not know anything about that.  I have tried to tell her at times.  In hindsight, I should have realized the inability of her to hear was a huge warning flag.

I do feel isolated and trapped again.  I mean, on the surface, I have a perfect life.  A teen that I adore, a job that is fun and pays well.  Everyone things I am happy.  But, I was secretly hoping for the cancer to return (I am a survivor).[/quote]

Big hug.[/quote]

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