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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just this morning I realized we need a morning checklist.  When my husband is helping to get the kids get ready in the morning he waits for me to tell him each and every step (and can't handle too many steps at once) and just stands there or starts chatting in between my requests of what he should be doing next.  It irritates both of us.  I don't know why it took me so long to realize he needs a list because to me it is obvious that if the kids haven't put on their shoes and it's 5 minutes to leave, you need to tell them to put their shoes on.

I think a checklist would work for most of your issues (also ask *him* what needs to be on the checklist so he has ownership and maybe there's stuff he'd like to see that you don't do).  The cleaning kitchen checklist would include the dishwasher; nighttime checklist includes type of diaper, etc.  That won't help the dangerous objects issue or likely other issues, but don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.[/quote]
He has no planning skills. No foresight.

But real question is, is this only at home or when you are around?  Then he is lazy, misogynistic.

But if he is always like this? Lazy, misogynistic, stupid, A-hole, ADD.

I would look hard at his siblings and father if they were the same. And the mother but if she had ADD she likely was active in managing it with meds or systems. Men like to deny they have it and then slip in to anger, depression, anxiety, narcissism. [/quote]

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