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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm reading that he has a hand in walking the dog, cleaning the kitchen, putting the kids to bed.  ...that sounds like quite a bit, even if it's not done to your standards. So, it isn't as though he's not willing to help out domestically; I think you just need to specialize a bit more to help him find his niches.

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"Help out domestically"?  It's his house, his kids, his dog, and his box cutter, too.  And, it's clear from the post that OP works, so it's not as if they have decided he will work and she will handle the homefront.  I know there are husbands who won't [i]even[/i] "help out", but until we stop thinking of husbands "helping" wives with domestic duties, we have no hope of achieving true equality.[/quote]

Sometimes I wonder how men would feel if women required the same hand holding to accomplish traditionally male division of labor. For example, if he needed to make his wife a checklist of her upcoming deadlines at work so she didn’t lose her job. Then if he complained that she wasn’t keeping up with her tasks even though he brought in most of the income, someone would say:

“What I’m hearing is that your wife already has a hand in getting herself to work, writing reports, planning projects and getting back home. That sounds like quite a bit even if it’s not done to your standards. So, it isn’t as though she’s not willing to help out financially, I think you just need to specialize a little bit and help her find her niche. Is it that a big deal to remind her when her projects are due? Pick up her dry cleaning for that important luncheon and help proofread a presentation? Maybe try to be more supportive?”[/quote]

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