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[quote=Anonymous]I’d think it’s very individual but if you have a strong relationship and view yourselves as a team now, valuing each partner’s different contributions, then switching to having one partner at home shouldn’t be an issue.

I was that SAHP until our youngest started K (although I did do occasional freelance projects for former employers/colleagues).  When I was working and when I wasn’t, DH was very clear that finances were “ours”, not his/hers.  Once (pre-kids) I said something about my bonus paying for a vacation, simply because the bonus was almost exactly what we were spending, and he corrected me (nicely) that “we” paid for the vacation.  Having that “ours” mentality made it a lot more comfortable for me to take a career break.

I do think it’s best when taking a break, that if you have any intention of going back, that you let colleagues know you are available to help out with projects.  Even a couple projects a year were helpful in keeping my resume/skills current and I found it easy to return to a similar level position after my 7 yrs at home.

On the issue of waiting until/if he makes partner -- what's his plan if he doesn't make partner?  Would it really be that hard to find a similar paying job elsewhere in the legal field? (I'm not a lawyer so no idea how that works!)
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