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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG this again.  Your salary doesn't 'pay for daycare.'  Childcare is a shared expense, and retirement, self-worth and respect, social security, etc are all reasons to keep working.

Cue the "I don't need to work to have self respect" posters![/quote]

No, it's not a shared expense when there is this wide of an income disparity. Incomes come as a sort of step function. You can have his lawyer income, her NGO income, neither, or both. They can't afford to live on neither, or on hers alone. That leaves two options. She works, or she doesn't. Only when she's working do they incur the cost of daycare, which happens to exceed her salary. For this reason, which is coldly rational, the cost of daycare is counted against her salary.

And what's worse, her after-tax income, after being combined with his BigLaw income, is going to be much less than $35k. She would be paying a lot more, and costing her family a lot of money, to maintain the illusion that she's financially contributing to the household, when, in fact, the exact opposite would be true.

Her best contribution would be made by staying home. Everything else is playing a game of make-believe.[/quote]

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