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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My husband has been doing this since our son was born 3 years ago[/b]. He used to work from home but now he just comes home for lunch Monday- Thursday. [b]It's not normal to be around your spouse this much, right[/b]? [b]It's disruptive to our sons nap schedule[/b] and my husband is only here for 15-20 minutes. Our son gets upset because he wants to play with dada. Is this one of those things I should just suck up and deal with? I think a lot a lot of it is in my head. [b]I feel guilty that the house looks messy or I haven't cooked dinner yet or this or that[/b]. We also live in a 1 bedroom apartment. [b]Sometimes our son is napping and he wakes up because he hears the front door open[/b]. Today I just blew up at my husband  and told him to stop coming home. He gave our son puzzles that I had put away on purpose because of the mess he creates. Some days he will give him play dough for example and it creates such a mess! I am scrubbing the rub for hours after this.  I remember my husbands friend made a comment about my husband working from home all the time when our son was a newborn. He asked us how we can stand being around each other 247. It got me thinking that it may not be a good idea to see each other everyday for lunch. On Fridays my husband goes to a church lunch and he always annoys me every Friday and ask if I am coming too. [/quote]

First, you have been dealing with this FOR THREE YEARS and have stored that much pent up anger and are only now complaining about it?  What the hell is wrong with your communication with your spouse?

Second, my husband and I finally work close enough to each other to have lunch together some days and it's awesome.  You don't want to see him for an extra 15 minutes a day?  You think that's too much?  How much other time do you spend with him?  I find this to be super weird.

Third, your kid is 3 - what time is he napping and what time is your husband coming home?  Also, where does your kid sleep in a one-bedroom apartment?

Fourth, you need to have a serious talk about you being a SAHM.  It sounds like either your husband resents that you don't work outside the house or you have some anxiety/insecurity about your decision.

Fifth, do you not have a white noise machine?  A fan?  Something?  We lived in a two-bedroom apartment when our twins were that age and they would never wake up from someone coming or going through the front door.

Ugh, there's so much more.  You may need to talk to someone in real life.  Your anxiety is off the charts.[/quote]

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