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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, one thing you may not realize is that charismatic men who try to seduce women in inappropriate contexts is A THING.  You may be feeling confused because it just seems so bizarre and unlikely, but this is a TYPE of man. They fall in love at the drop of a pin, are effusive, and charismatic.  Basically, they are horn-dogs, with or without the associated actionable sexual harassment, and with or without the intention to actually consummate something.  And, they often tend to be brilliant, funny, and charismatic -- this feeds their pattern, because they are GOOD at seducing!

One thing to know:  it's NOT you.  You're just his interest du jour.  He'll move on to another woman soon. This is not personal.

What you have to do is just ride it out.  Create some boundaries (should have ignored that Insta request!) and see what happens.  Talk a lot about your husband.  Ask about his wife.  Avoid 1:1 settings that may not be professional (drinks, dinner, trips).

Hopefully, it will all cool down, and what will be left is a genuinely good working relationship.  [/quote]

This post is spot on.  I'm a guy, and can identify with a lot of what you wrote.  My friends in college always used to tease me that I liked the thrill of the chase more than actually catching the woman.

Men like this often end up senior leaders in business because the same things that make them effective seducers make them effective at selling (either themselves, their ideas, or their products).

You are absolutely right that guys like this tend to lose interest quickly.  The only thing I would take issue with is the horn-dog description.  I think guys like this are motivated more by the ego boost of seducing a woman than sexual desire.[/quote]

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