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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not saying kids shouldn't have opportunities to play different positions, I'm only saying that if you're going to raise it with the coach, [b]make sure it's because it's what the kid wants [/b]rather than what the parents want. OP told us what the parents hoped for, but not the kids.

Also, it's good not to make assumptions about why something is being done without having it explained to you first. Don't assume the coach is deliberately shutting out other players in favor of these three if it's going to come out in the conversation that coach asked kids at practice what they wanted to play and your kid asked to play defense, because then you lose a lot of credibility even if you're otherwise right that that coach should be switching things up more.
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I'm saying a kid in U9 or U10 doesn't really know what he wants or what he should want.  Parents have a right to insist that, for the kids' development, they are given opportunities to play at all positions.  It is better for the kids' development, period, regardless of whether a kid wants to play one position all the time.  Think about it this way -- say a 9yo is a "natural striker" and wants to play only striker.  Should that kid not be required to play other positions?  It's not more acceptable just because a kid wants to play a less sought-after position like defender.  All kids at that age should be rotating through all positions, period.[/quote]

I guess that depends on what your priorities are. Are our kids playing for enjoyment of the game, or are they playing to maximize their talent and performance even if it comes at the expense of their enjoyment of the game? A U9 or U10 kid often knows exactly what they want, it just doesn't always square with what the kid's parent wants them to want.[/quote]

Soccer is a team sport. If rotating position will kill your kids' enjoyment of the game, soccer might not be for him/her.[/quote]

Oh, please. I'm not talking about refusing to let kids try out positions they are interested in playing, of course a coach should make that happen at that age. I'm talking about a kid who prefers playing a position for which there's less demand being allowed to stay there most of the time if it's not preventing other kids from getting desired experience. After all, that's where my comment started -- make sure that what you are pushing for is something your kid wants rather than something that will cause your kid to enjoy the sport less. Some parents get too caught up in their own egos and ideas of where they think their kid should play and wanting their kid to be the best out there that they push and push until they kill a kid's love for the game. At this age, encouraging love of the sport should be at least as much of a focus as player development so that your kid isn't the one who's burned out at 15 but feels like they can't quit because they'll be letting mom and dad down if they do.[/quote]

PP, I don't know how old your kids are, but I can't believe you don't understand that kids don't know everything, or that getting experience all over the field makes all players better.  It's really not about the parent's ego or what the parent wants; it's about giving the kid what he needs to become the best possible player and also about figuring out the kids' strengths and interests (which are not frozen at age 9).  And I really agree with the other PP that if a kid is going to get burned out by having to play positions from time to time that may be outside his comfort zone (not because of parental pressure, but because it is good for his development), that kid isn't really long for soccer anyway.

I am totally on board with not trying to kill your kid's love for the game.  My No. 1 goal with travel soccer has been to not have my kid quit by age 13.  I have not pressured him to try out for different, more competitive teams in more "elite" leagues because I know he loves his coach and teammates and that is the most important thing for him.  But at ages 9, 10, 11, it should not kill a kid's love for the game if he has to rotate positions.  If it does, either the kid doesn't really like soccer, or there's something else going on (like a bad team atmosphere).  [/quote]

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