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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would you want to stay with this person?

You are not preserving any kind of normal and healthy family life for your kids by staying with him.  You should leave for them, not stay for them.  [/quote]

THIS. And OP, I say this out of concern and care for you...but you are just as "sick" as he is from his alcoholism. Please go to an al-anon meeting and get some help to see what damage this is doing to YOU and what damage it is already doing and will continue to do to your children. They will NOT get out of this unscathed. And you do not have the power to "heal" any of this. Only he does. And that isn't fair, OP. It isn't. Because you didn't ask for this and you don't get to choose for him to do the right thing here. Your options are bad and worse. Worse being stay with the drunk husband/dad and have your kids grow up thinking this is what being a dad and husband looks like.
The BAD is leaving him and turning their world upside down in more visible ways (now this means they may live in an apartment with you and "visit" their drunk dad--if he doesn't get help and you have no documentation to stop him from having visitation, this is what happens). BUt at least they see that mom is not normalizing this situation. So they have cues that living with a drunk dad/husband is NOT what a healthy family looks like.

OP...act now.[/quote]

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