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[quote=Anonymous]Many dynamics here. Glad you are sharing your feelings. Your hurt, frustration, fear, and concern are understandable. Have you considered honestly discussing with DH your feelings? Using "I" messages sometimes get to the heart of problems. Have you considered, "I am hurt and scared when you smoke pot. I worry about you and our children. I don't know how and to help. What do you need from me to help you?"? This is an abbreviated example, yet the sentiment is you love him, want what is best for him and your marriage, and want to be a team. If you don't think this is a possibility, have you considered counseling for yourself. Sometimes we need a less biased, professional lens of our problems. Christian counseling has helped me to pinpoint my feelings, voice them appropriately, set new boundaries when needed, and use new strategies to address old problems, while still believing in "marriage" and "truth in love". Hope this helps and glad you are posting.[/quote]
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