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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Now that my kids are getting older, I'm finding age a bigger factor in making mom friends. Again, some of it is life stage, but some of it is just outgrowing some typical mom conversations. I don't shun anyone or refuse to have play dates or anything, but the people I'm likely to be actual friends with for myself are closer to my age than they were when I first started having babies 10 years ago and didn't care much.

Here are some of the reasons I've started to gravitate more toward people within 10 years of my age again (I'm 46, my youngest is 3.5):

We're done having babies; they're still considering another, maybe a few years down the road.

We're actively thinking about retirement; they're thinking about launching and rebuilding careers.

I'm in perimenopause; they're still weighing the long-term birth control options.

Our parents are entering their 80s, with all the things that go along with that; they still (for the most part) have parents in their 60s and 70s.

I'm back at work in a much increased capacity and loving it; many of them are still conflicted about work or weighing the SAH options.

I'm 46, I can't drink alcohol anymore, and I'm not interested in late night anything; many of them are still actively involved in the music/club/bar scene.

I agree with all of this.

I just turned 50 and have a 9 year old. I certainly don't shun anyone and welcome playdates with any child my DC likes/wants to know better. However, the older I get the more my perspectives and conversations are changing. Its impossible to talk to to someone in their 30's about retirement plans/goals/etc. Its just not a "real" or relatable topic for them. Also, the parenting stage is huge. When in a group of moms with babies/toddlers I have very little to talk about. While I can relate to what they are feeling and going through, unless they have an older child it's impossible for them to understand anything about my current parenting challenges or choices.

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