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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give examples and we will decide.

Are you being unreasonable? Is your dh equally bogged down, but you're too focused on your own load to even look up and notice?
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This and the examples are need are not how busy you are at work but what balls were dropped.  Ordering take-out instead of cooking, leaving a messy kitchen, not buying or wrapping a birthday gift or not doing the laundry when you wanted it done are all things I would let slide (but worth a non-upset conversation about ongoing division of labor).  If he left a kid at school or practice when he said he would get them, then I think you are right to be upset. [/quote]

+1 When I travel for work or am otherwise not able to pull my weight at home, DH doesn't do things the way we'd normally like them done but he keeps our kid happy, healthy, and safe.  And the same is true when he's swamped at work or is traveling and I'm flying solo.  Yea the laundry doesn't get done as often, not as many home cooked meals, toilets don't get scrubbed, kid might stay at daycare an hour longer than normal but no one is in danger or suffering for it.

DH and I have a really good division of labor going on normally so when one of us isn't available, the other has to let their own non-urgent/necessary tasks and chores slide so they can pick up the necessary chores and tasks usually done by the unavailable parent.  We're working with a finite amount of time, DH being unavailable doesn't suddenly give me more hours in the day.  So no, I'm not going to get the dusting done on Sunday like he normally would.[/quote]

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