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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spouse dropped the ball on a few things recently while I was buried at work.  On the one hand, I empathize because I know that my work schedule has probably made things more difficult.  On the other, I'm upset that I'm now uncertain whether I can count on things to be taken care of in a situation like this, which is almost sure to arise again in the future.  What do I do here?[/quote]

It depends on what the things were.

I am busy at work this week. I have had two late meetings and another one tonight that mean my husband will need to pick up our daughters from school and daycare and get them started on dinner. I know that I can count on him to do those things. I also know that I cannot count on him to take out the trash or do a load of laundry between 6pm when they get home and 7pm when I get home.

If your spouse dropped the ball on something essential, then it's a conversation about how you need to work as a team to make sure that XYZ is covered regardless of what is going on. You need to figure out a backup plan. For example, if I have a meeting that is late tonight and my husband is not able to pick up our kids for some reason, I know who we would call to pick them up. He also knows and would call, since our previous agreement made it his responsibility.[/quote]

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