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[quote=Anonymous]I'll be the voice of dissent here. It's not ok.  Why is it "fine" or should you "let it go" if he is not doing what needs to be done (esp if your situation is temporary)? It does, as others note, depend on the thing(s) he is missing. But, if it is something big and he is consistently dropping things (we all have those forgetful moments), yeah no.

My DH can be like that sometime.  And I just flat out told him that he needs to do the things he needs to do (b/c I fully fill in for him when he works long hours or travels, which is a lot) or I'm outsourcing things to ensure those other things get done. I'm simply not doing all of them.  And I will pay whatever I need to in order to make that happen. And I did until he decided to start remembering things that needed (not just wanted) to happen.

Sorry, we are a team. And if he is not going to be an effective partner of that team, or can't for whatever reason then he a) needs to figure out how to be better organized or how to do what he needs to do, or b) I will work around him. But, I'm not doing it all.

And before I get called a shrew, he gets PLENTY of me time between work trips (to the South Pacific, among other things), football Sundays, fantasy drafts, beer events, and Caps games. . . . to name a few.[/quote]

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