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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents paid for my older brothers college and said they couldn’t afford mine.  I’m still paying back loans and he’s got a way easier life.  My parents are dead now but it honestly does suck.   Can’t blame little sis for being pissed.  Maybe what she needs is some empathy because her parents screwed up.  Yes, that happens, but it doesn’t sound like anyone is sorry or feels badly.  [/quote]

You have no idea, based on anything OP has told us, that the parents are not sorry or don't "feel badly." For all you know, they may be kicking themselves daily for not coming up with some perfect "a third for each child" scheme before the oldest (OP) started college. But it's so easy to say long after the fact what they should have done. For all we know, they may not have realized how expensive college for one kid would be, and/or there was a job loss or change that messed up a "fairer" plan they had in mind. Maybe they relied far too much on advice from youngest DD's school, which seems to have told them she had big academic promise in middle school. Read the original post--the parents paid to put her into a private HS since she had been ID'd as promising. Should they have saved that money for college instead? Sure, that's clear now, but you don't know what the family was working with in terms of job prospects etc. And it sounds like youngest DD blew the private HS opportunity on her own.

The real issue OP raises is not rehashing what the parents did and didn't do in the past, even if they made poor choices then. The issue here and now is that the youngest DD is immature, furious and raging at them in their own home constantly. Immature can't get fixed by anyone else, and furious is somewhat understandable, but today's behavior by little sister helps her in no way and OP sees it hurts her parents. Some PPs seem to think the parents deserve 24/7 toxicity in their home as payback for poor financial choices that were not made out of meanness toward little sister.

OP: Ask your parents what they want. Your sister sounds like she needs to get a job and get out. Maybe talk up how good she was in the job you mentioned working with kids and help connect her to jobs like that. [/quote]

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