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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH needs to step up as host/food provider and you need to unclench about décor and radio stations.

Also I think you might want to offer the toddler some of their preferred food--you know, just in case toddler likes it!
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I am offering. She will eat some, but I like a more rounded diet for her.

Like I said, I am mixing up what I am making. One night “our” food, one night “theirs”.But the next week, [b]apparently I am making[/b] German food only. [/quote]

Why do you allow your DH to have so much power over you? You're the one cooking the dinner. You can't stop him cooking his own dinner, but you can refuse to cook it. Does DH earn all the money? Any other reason you think he's the boss?[/quote]

It’s not a fight I’m interesting in having while we have guests. I’m just frustrated that he’s totally become incompetent. I do want him to visit with them, as they don’t visit often, but I’m just tired of it being a one way show, and him stomping his feet [b]when I ask that my needs also be met[/b]. It’s not worth a blowout at this point, though. Maybe when they leave. [/quote]

YOU need to meet your own needs. You don't ask for them to be met. You cook what you want and just refuse to cook anything else. You refuse to "restock bathrooms" whatever that means. You're being ridiculous. If someone runs out of TP, they can call your DH to deal with it for them. And who cares about cleaning the kitchen. Just clean your own mess in the kitchen as you normally would, and remind DH that his mess is still in the kitchen and it would be great if he could get to it before he goes to bed.

And just show them where the laundry is and let them do their own washing. Who needs to do washing anyway when they go somewhere for a week. Just sleep in and enjoy yourself as much as possible.  Letting someone play a radio station is not the same as you willingly slaving away letting other people make work for you.

I had sympathy in the beginning but now I'm with the other PPs - you're behaving like a baby. Real adults put down boundaries and refuse to be mistreated. Exactly what you're accusing your DH of doing with your parents is what you're doing with your DH.

And while you think it's "not worth it" to deal with your DH, your DH thinks it's "not worth it" to deal with his parents.[/quote]

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