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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can your son go on Google Classroom, instead of your husband?

Here's how my (HS) daughter ends up not using her planner.

At the beginning of the very first class of the day, she gets out her materials and her planner. She's sitting at her desk ready to go.
She focuses on her class. Even with medication, this takes effort. If she lets herself get distracted, she can lose the entire class. She has to constantly monitor whether or not she's paying attention. She takes notes and doodles to help.
This means she's not aware that it's 5 minutes before the end of class, when everyone else starts casually getting their things together. She's, instead, completely surprised when it's time to change classes, and she was finishing up taking notes. She didn't even get to write the homework assignment down in her planner. No problem, she remembers it, so she'll make a note of it in her next class. She grabs her things in a rush and heads to the next class.
In the hallway a friend asks what the math homework was. She answers.
She gets to her next class, and tries to sort through her school supplies she grabbed and put them back in her backpack in an organized manner, while getting out the materials for this class. Her teacher starts talking before the class is even supposed to begin. Making a note of the previous classes homework has flown out of her head. She focuses on this class, takes notes, and this teacher gives them a minute at the end of class to get things together. My daughter finishes taking her notes (she's always just a step behind, she's not quite sure what notes to take, so her notes still tend to be extensive), looks under her binder for her planner. It's not there. She looks in the backpack pocket she puts it in. Not there either. As the bell rings, she realizes it's stuffed in the main pocket with her previous class materials. No problem, she'll write down her assignment at her next class. And wasn't there something she was supposed to write down about her first class?

And the rest of the day she gets gradually more encumbered by all the "last minute" parts of the day. Teachers really don't help. They don't give kids time to settle in, or wrap up. It's go from the minute she steps into school to the second she leaves, and ADHD kids really struggle with managing the high level of organization that requires. When half my kid's brain is focused on focusing, she has nothing left over for things like realizing she has 5 minutes til the end of class and she needs to write the homework in her planner now.

What helps? Telling her to use her planner doesn't. Getting upset with her for not using it doesn't. On-line homework lists do help. But it took a while for her to be able to check them, because she had YEARS of failing at this homework thing under her belt, and no one's excited to do something they're just going to screw up. She also relies, a lot, on friends. She is the kid who's regularly asking what they were assigned for homework. Thankfully, she has some really good friends who don't mind sharing their organizational abilities with her.

Brain storm with your kid. Try all sorts of things. Make this a team problem that you're all working together to solve. He's not failing, you guys just haven't figured out what works yet.[/quote]

This is so spot on. [/quote]

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