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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would make a plan with him. I always tell my kids that I will never do something without talking them first because I don't want them to not come to me. You'd be surprised how often kids can come up with how to resolve the issue. Obviously if they come to me with something serious, I may have to handle it in a way they don't approve. I think in the How to Talk... book it says to brainstorm all the ways to handle a situation, even silly or unrealistic ones like "punch him in the face" to lighten the mood and give the kid some power. GL![/quote]

Good advice.  I've been through this before and did this with my kids - in addition to giving the teacher and counselor a heads up.  With the exception of one incident (when my DS came home with marks on his face), I spoke to the teacher/counselor in confidence.  The low level stuff, especially when it's in PE, just isn't on the teachers' radar.  It's hard to catch.  But if you give them a heads up, there are a lot of things they can do.  When my DS came home with the marks on his face, I told him we had to inform the school - that when it's physical like that, it's gone beyond our ability to 'roll with'.  I was able to get him to talk to the counselor who kept their conversation confidential.  She was able to bring in other kids, talk to them, get their take on things and was able to work everything out with no one knowing my DS was the one to alert the staff.  He also felt a lot better after speaking with her and believed her when she said lots of kids have lots of confidential conversations with her.

Good luck.  I know how much this hurts. [/quote]

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