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[quote=Anonymous]I am in my mid-30's and have noticed that a number of my friends and peers' parents have INSANE expectations when it comes to how much communication and "access" they expect from their adult children. I think this is an extension of helicopter parenting and/or family norms that were set when they were raising kids with family nearby so things like spending every holiday and every birthday together made sense. When you are asking your kids and grandkids to fly to you for every holiday, and not allowing any boundaries (see all the posts about how drama-filled some of these IL and parent visits are), then the older generation can see some boundaries as downright warfare.

None of these outsized expectations are abuse, but these parents claim that they are "being shut out" if they are asked to stay in a hotel rather than on the couch when their daughter has twin newborns in a DC 1 BR apartment.

So i wonder if some of these people thinking they are being cut off for no reason are really just confused that their offspring are acting like actual adults and choosing to vacation, have holidays, etc.. with their own immediate families. [/quote]

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