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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Its like she keeps me at arms length and just goes really quiet. I just want to understand it from her side. I am not scheming at all, just trying to make sense of it.
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Except that you are totally discounting things, insisting that she's not really in pain, that she's totally fine physically...but she's not.  She was in real pain for six months or so, and she's got a chronic condition that causes discomfort and that requires ongoing treatment and management.  Sometimes that is exhausting.  If you are constantly downplaying or dismissing her pain/discomfort, then she's pulling away because that's obnoxious.  Otherwise, it's probably that she's tired, anxious, stressed, and trying to figure out what her new normal is.  Or she doesn't want to talk about it all the damn time, because it already takes up so much of her headspace.  And you are making it all about you.  It's not all about you.  You don't need to understand it to be sensitive and sympathetic.  [/quote]

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