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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, you allowed women to "heavily flirt" with you in front of your wife while your wife got "understandably upset"? What kind of DH would do this?  Sounds like the "hot sex" was really just duty sex because your wife questions whether you are or would have an affair.  Don't kid yourself. [/quote]

Man here, I want my wife to assume I am capable of cheating if the sex dries up.  How sad must your wife look at you if she refuses to have sex with you and knows you have no options.  Men prefer their wives have sex with them because of desire but given the choice between "afraid to lose him so I will put on a good show" and "not tonight or tomorrow night dear" men would chose the former.[/quote]

I think there are two very different things.

One is if your spouse is attractive enough that other people are interested. It’s not that jealousy makes women hot, it’s that if other people are attracted to your spouse, they are presumably in good shape, have a stable career, are a good parent, a cheerful disposition, and are generally a well-functioning adult. [b]That’s attractive because functioning adults are attractive, while whiny man-children are not.[/b]

The second, which is actively threatening to cheat or trying to make your wife jealous by flirting with other people, is not sexy. At least not for me. They are good ways to make me never want sex with that person ever again. A lot of women may even find it a relief- they get the perks of marriage without having to put out, and it would also give them the ability to step outside the marriage and sleep with more attractive men. [/quote]

This is the line that is hard to walk.  As a man who went through a long stretch with a low libido wife, "talking it out" was entirely counter-productive.  It seemed whiny, even to me.   Women seem to want what they don't have, and if they think they totally have you, they don't want you.  An element of insecurity may be bad for the psyche but good for the steamy.[/quote]

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